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My partner's little boyfriend is snoring peacefully on mic after a long day of games, watchin' stuff, and streaming together.

And my partner, whose love for this kid is every bit as selfless and kind as the purest expressions of love can be, turned up his mic because the gentle rhythm of his breathing and the small noises he makes in contentment every so often make her feel giddy and happy and, above all, safe.

It's really one of the most romantic things I've ever witnessed.

All I can think is,

Is this REALLY what the people who bullied them when they came out as a couple in public were fighting to avoid? The ones that shamed my partner for allowing this boy into her heart so she could love him, is this what they so desperately wanted to mitigate?

These two are happy. In a way that I've never truly seen before.

And, listen, I'm a CSA survivor. I understand the zealotry associated with s*xual abuse, specifically when a kid is involved. There are people who mean ill and have the capacity to irreparably scar kids like my abuser did to me.

but..

Indescriminately abusing MAPs and their partners for being proud of their healthy, functioning relationships isn't how you rescue anybody.

You're not fighting for kids.

You're fighting for moral superiority.

Every adult who bullies a kid on social media just for accidentally wandering into a "minors dni" space is doing NOTHING to address the issue of exploitation.

Humans are unique in their ability to reason and to differentiate between genuine threats and harmless phenomena.

These two healing souls, comfortable enough to share the most vulnerable parts of life with each other, aren't threats. Not to society, not to children, and least of all to the fragile egos of the moral absolutionists that periodically abuse them.

They're a couple. They're partners. They're lovers. And my GOD are they cute together :mapheart:

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My partner's little boyfriend is snoring peacefully on mic after a long day of games, watchin' stuff, and streaming together.

And my partner, whose love for this kid is every bit as selfless and kind as the purest expressions of love can be, turned up his mic because the gentle rhythm of his breathing and the small noises he makes in contentment every so often make her feel giddy and happy and, above all, safe.

It's really one of the most romantic things I've ever witnessed.

All I can think is,

Is this REALLY what the people who bullied them when they came out as a couple in public were fighting to avoid? The ones that shamed my partner for allowing this boy into her heart so she could love him, is this what they so desperately wanted to mitigate?

These two are happy. In a way that I've never truly seen before.

And, listen, I'm a CSA survivor. I understand the zealotry associated with s*xual abuse, specifically when a kid is involved. There are people who mean ill and have the capacity to irreparably scar kids like my abuser did to me.

but..

Indescriminately abusing MAPs and their partners for being proud of their healthy, functioning relationships isn't how you rescue anybody.

You're not fighting for kids.

You're fighting for moral superiority.

Every adult who bullies a kid on social media just for accidentally wandering into a "minors dni" space is doing NOTHING to address the issue of exploitation.

Humans are unique in their ability to reason and to differentiate between genuine threats and harmless phenomena.

These two healing souls, comfortable enough to share the most vulnerable parts of life with each other, aren't threats. Not to society, not to children, and least of all to the fragile egos of the moral absolutionists that periodically abuse them.

They're a couple. They're partners. They're lovers. And my GOD are they cute together :mapheart:

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One thing I think most MAPS who are resolute in their attractions fail to understand is that the necessities and anxieties that come with being in a relationship with a kid are the same as those that come from adult romance, except more severe.

Communication is important in a normal relationship, yeah? It's PIVOTAL in a relationship with a minor.

You're worried about not being enough for your adult partner? Wait until you find out the unique set of needs that kids have.

In a very real sense, you take the insurmountable trials of parenting and add a layer of romance and emotional investment that catapults that relationship to a new level of difficulty.

Difficulty, but also.. fulfillment.

I've been fortunate to date two super fucking amazing kids, and they have irreplaceable spots in my life. 🤍

But I'd be lying if I said that investment wasn't really, really hard sometimes.

Tl;dr, if you're gonna date somebody under the age of consent, be ready to put in the effort they deserve :mapheart:

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One thing I think most MAPS who are resolute in their attractions fail to understand is that the necessities and anxieties that come with being in a relationship with a kid are the same as those that come from adult romance, except more severe.

Communication is important in a normal relationship, yeah? It's PIVOTAL in a relationship with a minor.

You're worried about not being enough for your adult partner? Wait until you find out the unique set of needs that kids have.

In a very real sense, you take the insurmountable trials of parenting and add a layer of romance and emotional investment that catapults that relationship to a new level of difficulty.

Difficulty, but also.. fulfillment.

I've been fortunate to date two super fucking amazing kids, and they have irreplaceable spots in my life. 🤍

But I'd be lying if I said that investment wasn't really, really hard sometimes.

Tl;dr, if you're gonna date somebody under the age of consent, be ready to put in the effort they deserve :mapheart:

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I think something people don't understand about MAP's and AAM's is this,

It's really fucking hard.

Almost every MAP I know, if they could change one thing about themselves, would change their attractions.

It's not easy walking into a store and realizing that 99% of the people in that store would feel safer if you were dead or imprisoned. It's hard when elected representatives and government officials who are responsible for ushering protection and change are unified in their ideological opposition to your existence.

And when you factor in that a fair few of us have had our own trauma surrounding the very thing that casts a shadow over our day-to-days, memories of abuse as kids, or horrifying interactions with adults in positions of trust,

I don't know how you choose anything other than empathy. The generic moral panic faction that screams "k//ll all p//dos" is such an alien concept to me..

I've never wished death on anybody, especially over factors they couldn't control.

the tl;dr of this is that choosing kindness is essential, both within this community and abroad. Because a lot of us need it. A lot of us are far greater dangers to ourselves than to kids or adults.

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I think something people don't understand about MAP's and AAM's is this,

It's really fucking hard.

Almost every MAP I know, if they could change one thing about themselves, would change their attractions.

It's not easy walking into a store and realizing that 99% of the people in that store would feel safer if you were dead or imprisoned. It's hard when elected representatives and government officials who are responsible for ushering protection and change are unified in their ideological opposition to your existence.

And when you factor in that a fair few of us have had our own trauma surrounding the very thing that casts a shadow over our day-to-days, memories of abuse as kids, or horrifying interactions with adults in positions of trust,

I don't know how you choose anything other than empathy. The generic moral panic faction that screams "k//ll all p//dos" is such an alien concept to me..

I've never wished death on anybody, especially over factors they couldn't control.

the tl;dr of this is that choosing kindness is essential, both within this community and abroad. Because a lot of us need it. A lot of us are far greater dangers to ourselves than to kids or adults.

b e

k i n d

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@Katie, your shop is my favorite thing on the PLANET

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@Katie, your shop is my favorite thing on the PLANET

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My girlfriend and her boyfriend bonded over the fact that, initially, when people found out he was an AAM/in a previous relationship with an adult, they bullied him to the point of tears. She consoled him and helped him heal.

The whole "we do this to protect kids" mantra from antis rings so fucking hollow when they victimize the people the purport to "fight for"

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My girlfriend and her boyfriend bonded over the fact that, initially, when people found out he was an AAM/in a previous relationship with an adult, they bullied him to the point of tears. She consoled him and helped him heal.

The whole "we do this to protect kids" mantra from antis rings so fucking hollow when they victimize the people the purport to "fight for"